St. John The Evangelist
R.C. Church, Center Moriches, N.Y.
St. John's Pastor: Father John Sureau
October 21, 2018
ALL I REALLY NEEDED TO KNOW I LEARNED IN KINDERGARTEN: Sister Nancy Campkin, CSJ
Dear Parish Family:
One of the most intimidating moments of my life as a school principal is our incredible Early Childhood Program. Give me a room of high school and middle school students and I can handle it in a few minutes. Give me a group of three and four and five year olds and I’m not sure what to do. It all goes back to Kindergarten, I guess. I’ve been thinking about those days a lot lately. I wrote last week about the passing of my childhood pastor—Msgr. William Jablonski. I had the chance to return to West Islip again last weekend for a wonderful event—the 50th Jubilee of Sister Nancy Campkin as a Sister of St. Joseph. What a privilege to return “home”! (She’s pictured in the center here at motherhouse of the Sisters of St. Joseph in Brentwood.) Sister Nancy is a pretty amazing woman of faith. She spoke here at St. John’s during Summer Evening Prayer a few years ago. She has taught in Brooklyn, Queens and Suffolk.
She has coordinated a huge faith formation program for many years and has always found a way to pull others into the work and ministry in the life of the Church – including and especially me. Without her presence and influence, I’m not sure I would have recognized God’s call for me. Today, more than just my Kindergarten teacher and mentor and role model, I am proud to call her a friend.
Sister Nancy also has many great words of wisdom, words that I have repeated many times. There also words that strike me as worth considering as we come to the end of the liturgical year and prepare for Advent. Here are a few:
• Always have a Plan B. I have heard Sister Nancy use those words many times in my lives. This is good advice for parish and life and ministry. It’s also good advice for us in the spiritual life. We’re about to move into the time of preparing. We often have things set in our own minds how we want things to go and are not always so ready for the twists and turns. Maybe as we approach Advent, we should think about some Plan B’s in different areas of our own lives. Is God moving us in a direction we may not want? Check out your plans…they may not be God’s.
• Anticipate. Sister Nancy would often tell me about the need to anticipate. If you do this, what can happen with that? If you make this decision, how will it impact this or that? It’s true in our own lives, too. Are we looking at the impact certain decisions can have on our spiritual well being? What will happen if I don’t make this sacrifice or give up this time or move in this direction?
• One more thing. One of the gifts given to Sister Nancy on Sunday was hours of service. She’s famous for getting people to work. (I might have picked up a thing or two :)). The young person who spoke said “we will do all of these hours moving tables, chairs, and the like and all of the ‘one more thing’s’ Sister Nancy asks us to do.” We often want to be done. I’ll deal with this issue or that situation or this crisis and I’m done. We’re never done. The beginning of the liturgical year is a reminder that there is always one more thing. We begin another liturgical cycle this year. One more thing. This “one more thing” doesn’t need to be a bad thing. It’s an opportunity for us to begin anew, to start again.
• The Journey Continues. One of Sister Nancy’s most famous lines is that “The Journey Continues”. There is always more to come. It’s not that there is just only “one more thing”. It is that we need to be open to the journey the Lord calls us to be on. It may require that we have a Plan B, that we need to anticipate and be open to doing “one more thing”. The last few weeks have seen me return to my home parish for good times and some tough ones. It reminds me of how important the life of the parish is in our lives. I have been humbled, honored, and made more holy by the people of Our Lady of Lourdes. I have seen it here in this parish over the past few years with the great love and affection offered to and received from Msgr. McDonald whenever he would return and now in the days since he passed.
Let’s pray that our parish will continue to be a place that prepares others well for this journey of life and life of the world to come. Please pray for me.
Father Bill...Joe… A Sunday of Sadness and Surrender - 11/18
Dear Parish Family:
Before the 10:30 a.m. Mass last Sunday, I received a message from Bishop Brennan that Msgr. William Jablonski died. Father Bill, as he was known, was the Pastor of my home parish of Our Lady of Lourdes in West Islip since as long as I can remember. He trained me to be an altar server and hired me to be a sacristan at OLL. When I first started meeting with one of the Vocation Directors some 20 years ago, I stopped by his parish, at the time, in East Rockaway to let him know. He was the first person I told. Years later, even though impacted by the effects of a stroke, Fr. Bill was one of the priests who vested me at Ordination on December 3, 2011.
I think, for most priests, there are a cadre of role models we give credit to for helping us to discern God’s call. I have been impacted by many. You’ve met a few of them here at St. John’s. In a time when we are so aware of the frailty that exists in the humanity of the priesthood, these men remind me why I ever thought God might be calling me to this life. It undoubtedly started, though, with Father Bill. I remember my fellow fourth graders and I as students at Our Lady of Lourdes School—he was passionate about Catholic schools too— being trained about the ins and outs of altar serving. I remember he led the effort to renovate the church building of Our Lady of Lourdes– we celebrated Mass in the Gym for over a year there too. I remember him telling me it was time to move up and become a sacristan and actually earn some money. I remember his support of me as a new campus minister and someone working with young people. I remember him agreeing to vest me and allowing me to use his chalice at my first Mass as a priest in 2011.
Fr. Bill was never cool (I don’t mean that disrespectfully). He wasn’t cutting edge. He wasn’t part of the latest movement in the church and maybe wouldn’t be the poster model for vocations. He was just a good, dedicated and humble priest who did what needed to be done wherever it needed to be done. Quietly serving. Gently (and sometimes not so gently) guiding others. And instigating others too.
That sounds like an interesting word, no? I mean it in the best sense though. Fr. Bill could “push buttons”. He could tease with a smile, and a point behind it. He could challenge you in a way you needed to be challenged. You knew, ultimately, he only wanted the best for you. As I write this letter, I’m also working on a homily. He asked if I would be one of the homilists for his Mass of Transferal and Funeral Mass. His priesthood was probably the best homily anyone could give.
Last Sunday was a tough day—and not because of the long homily I gave at all of the Masses! - and not only because of the news about Father Bill. At 2 a.m. early Sunday morning, I was contacted by a family in my last parish. (I feel asleep in my chair with the phone on my chest.) They were one of those families who weren’t overly involved but always present to the parish. Their son was involved in some of our service work there. Their dad—a man in his mid to late 40s—was dying. He was diagnosed with cancer in 2016 and had his ups and downs until a few weeks ago. They didn’t ask me to come. They didn’t have to ask.
I had the chance to pray with Joe, his wife, son and family and to celebrate the Anointing of the Sick with them at their home that early morning. It was a powerful moment for me. It brought me back to moments of my own dad’s passing. A reminder about the need to surrender. Joe died about a half hour after I left. I will have celebrated his funeral on Saturday.
It was a tough night and then a tough day. The week since has had its weight for sure. I had some time to think about a good and holy priest and the example he set. I had the privilege to be present to one so close to returning home to the place prepared for him. One who showed me what it is to be a priest. Another who gave me the privilege of serving him as one.
Say a prayer for Fr. Bill and his family and say a prayer for Joe and his family. If you can, please say a prayer for me.
Rebuilding, Restoring, Renewing: IT NEVER ENDS - 11/11
Dear Parish Family:
The words of the prophet Isaiah (58:12) served as a motto of sorts for our parish over the past 14 months. The repair of the church building certainly saw these words come to life. Something much deeper hap-pened though in these times. More than a building, the spiritual dwelling of our parish and I hope each one of us as individuals has been, in some way, rebuilt, restored and renewed.
It is in this spirit that I am presenting the 2018-19 Annual Report. The financial report (on the next page) provides the basic information of our parish finances. Because of your presence in prayer and service, because of your generosity - in the spirit of the poor widow in today’s Gospel - and because of your com-mitment to SJE in trying times in the life of the Church, we are where we are today. Period. Without you, we would be lost. I will explain some things in detail at Masses this weekend, but the most im-portant words I can ever express are words of gratitude, always gratitude.
The restoration of the church building had a huge impact on our financial numbers. The end of year re-port – August 2018 – shows numbers that are a bit “off” in positive and negative directions. We are still settling our insurance claim. The entire restoration of the church building – what has been paid through insurance and what we have done through the 2017 and 2018 Summer Appeals and the Fund a Foot campaign will bring the entire project over 3 million dollars. It’s been a huge undertaking. The monies raised in those campaigns allowed us to: install a polished concrete floor, refinish our sanctuary, repair the roof and cupola damage, improve our lighting system, repair and replace our exterior lighting system, improve our sound system, reseal our parking lot, install new stained glass windows marking this time in our church’s history, and allowed us to begin the process of putting additional glass on the exterior of the stained glass windows from the original building of the church in 1998. (This work, though largely unseen, will protect the windows as well as the structure and integrity of the church building.) These projects, yes, have largely exhausted the work of the Fund a Foot campaign and the Summer Appeal. These projects are the reasons we carried out these campaigns. The monies raised achieved goals set. Again, always gratitude.
We are hoping to finish up the insurance claim in the next two months and finish all accommodations that need to be made for a Certificate of Occupancy (something the church building never had) to be issued. Once that is finished, I promise you, I will let you know. So we’re done restoring, rebuilding and renewing, right? No way.
You know as well as I do that the past 14 months saw many great things happen here in additional to the church restoration. There have been many signs of spiritual, pastoral, liturgical, and ministerial rebuild-ing, restoring and renewing. The same must be true in the months and years ahead.
Can I share a few ideas about where some of the rebuilding, repairing and renewing need to happen – in the leadership, ministerial and formation work of our parish?
Mission Statement. We are in the process of developing a parish mission statement that has tones of the Gospel of John within it. Our Pastoral Council has worked to create this statement and our Finance Council and Pastoral Team have reviewed it. I am enclosing a first draft below. Soon, we’ll be asking for some feedback on this.
This will help to direct us in the future. Here is our first draft:
“Inspired by our Patron, St. John the Evangelist Roman Catholic Church in Center Moriches seeks to bring the light of Christ to a world in need, so that as Christ has done, we may also do. From the celebration of the Eucharist, we are sent forth to serve God and neighbor through ministries of formation, education and outreach.”
Strategic Direction. I would like the parish to develop a strategic direction plan for the future. We’ll be relying on the Pastoral Council and Pastoral Team for this effort, an effort that will call us to examine the various aspects of parish life and where we hope to be in the future.
Automated Giving. I hope by Winter 2019 to introduce to you the possibility of automated giving. This would allow us to make our contributions electronically via a debit or credit card. This would not be mandatory in any way. It is an opportunity for you, if it makes life easier.
Youth Ministry. Fr. Michael is leading a work group on the future of youth ministry at SJE. Surveys are being completed, interviews are taking place, materials reviewed and more. Our hope is to have something in place in 2019.
OLQA. I will speak more about the school this weekend, but am inviting everyone to considering be-ing part of our new enrollment campaign - 220 by 2020 - as we seek to increase awareness, oppor-tunity and enrollment at the Catholic School in Center Moriches.
So as you can see, it never ends. There’s always one more thing! Same in our common mission of bring-ing the light of Christ to a world so desperately in need. Thank you for all the ways you seek to be present and to support our parish community and thank you, especially, for your goodness and kindness to me.
Please pray for me.
Respect Life + Rosary + Bullying Prevention + Confirmation - 10/28
Dear Parish Family:
October is a busy month for the Church. There are a number of themes that run through it. Some I am aware of. Some I just learned of in my new role as Principal of OLQA. These emphases are good ones. They focus and direct us. I wonder though if there is a tendency in us to say “Well...that’s over.” Let’s move on to November and all that month brings. I hope it’s not that way for you. It shouldn’t be for you or for us as a parish community.
Respect Life Month. We focus, as a church, a good deal of energy on Respect Life Month and we should. We’re probably a little distracted these days as a Church but we really don’t have time for this distraction. There are pregnant moms in need of support, unborn children in danger, poor and hungry in need, death row inmates in need of justice, the dying in need of care and so many more life issues in need of our attention. Let’s not waver. As a matter of fact, let’s get even more committed. Have you volunteered in Parish Social Ministry yet? Have you learned more about our Pro-Life group? Have you joined the Catholic Action Network yet? What are you waiting for?
Bullying Prevention. This past week at OLQA, we recognized Bullying Prevention Week. It’s not a one week process I assure you. It’s one that requires constant attention and vigilance. It’s also not something limited to kids in middle school. Adults are not much better. If you’re not so sure, hop online. There are bullies of all types, particularly Catholic ones! If I’m honest, I’m not too far away from earning that title at times. I have to watch it. Maybe you do too? We’re fortunate to be able to make the connection between Bullying Prevention and Respect Life Month. Neither should this end on Wednesday.
Rosary. I try to pray the Rosary every day. I sometimes fail. I forget, to be honest. No excuse. Sometimes I fall asleep half way through. Sometimes I look at an image of the Blessed Mother and say, “It’s not happening today. I hope you understand.” I know the difference it does make for me. If it makes that much of a difference in my life, imagine the difference it would make if we all prayed it? Pope Francis asked us to pray the Rosary, the Sub Tuum Praesidium and the Prayer to St. Michael the Archangel throughout October for the Church. Does our emphasis have to end on October 31st? I hope not. Maybe it will in-spire us to pray these prayers each day. I have put in a graphic that might be worth cutting out. It’s on page 4.
Confirmation. This past Tuesday, we celebrated the Sacrament of Confirmation at SJE. What a great day for our parish as over two hundred young people and their families came together to complete their initiation into the Catholic Church. What a gift for us. I am a realist. I know not everyone will be back right away. I live in hope, though. I pray the seeds planted, and hopefully watered and nourished at the celebration this past Tuesday, will take root in our young people.
It doesn’t need to end this October—for them, for you or for me.
Please pray for me. Fr. John
Communion + Care + Contemplation + Commitment + Compassion
PRAISED BE THE SAINTS!
Dear Parish Family:
There are some weeks when the liturgical cycle of celebrations and saints hits you like a ton of bricks. Kind of what you need in the midst of the every day of our lives. This would be one of those weeks for me, maybe one for you? Here’s what I was thinking:
Pope Saint Paul VI. Admittedly, I don’t know too much about all of the history related to Pope Paul VI. From what I have read and learned, his quiet presence brought about some unity in the Church in the midst of times of real tumult. I think of his ability to build a communion of sorts in the midst of all that change. I think of that need in the midst of our Church today, maybe even within our parish. It’s hard, Lord knows. To see where we can come together then to grab on to what divides us or separates us isn’t always so easy. Pope St. Paul VI, pray for us!
Saint Oscar Romero. In 2000 and 2001, I had the humble privilege to visit the country of El Salvador and pray in the Chapel where now Saint Oscar Romero was murdered. There was a sense of quiet and serenity that I have felt in few places. Having the spent the weeks prior in various neighborhoods and communities of El Salvador, I came to learn a great deal about how this saint inspired a faith in Christ and His Church for so many in this wounded country. He poured out his life, literally, on behalf of the poor and the voiceless. I am reminded of how quickly I walk away from the poor and the wounded when it gets tough for me or people give me a hard time for it or it’s even just inconvenient. Maybe the same for you? St. Oscar Romero, pray for us.
Saint Teresa of Jesus (of Avila). I am reading the works of a Carmelite sister and I need to go easy whenever I read them. She embodies the challenges of St. Teresa in her writings. The call to contemplation, withdrawal from the everyday of life and the need to rest in the presence of God are raised constantly. Talk about a hit in the head in these days between parish, school and life. You bet there’s work to do here within me. What about you? St. Teresa of Jesus, pray for us.
St. Ignatius of Antioch. In praying with the Office of Readings today, I was taken by St. Ignatius’ willingness to do whatever is necessary—even accepting incredible death and torture –for Christ and His Church. Unwilling to stand down from his defense of truth, unafraid of the earthly consequences. How quickly I can cower from challenge and confrontation at times. Maybe the same for you? St. Ignatius of Antioch, pray for us.
St. Luke. In full disclosure, even though I am humbled to be in the Parish of St. John the Evangelist, I think the Gospel of Luke is my favorite one. From start (the Canticles of Zechariah and Mary) to finish (the story of Emmaus) to all in between, Luke calls us to a certain compassionate relationship with God and one another. We see it in those beautiful parables, no? The Good Samaritan, the Lost Coin, the Prodigal Son and others. I see often the areas of my life and ministry where compassion is not evident in who I am and what I do. Caught up in tasks and jobs, it’s so easy to forget persons and encounters. Almost no time to look for that coin, find that sheep, care for that beaten person or look for that lost son. Too busy on the things of my world, I can so easily forget the world beyond me. Maybe the same for you? St. Luke the Evangelist, pray for us.
So a challenging week for me. Hopefully that will get me further on the path of holiness. Maybe the same for you?
Please pray for me. Fr. John
Youth Ministry in Transition: Hope for youth- 10/14
Dear Parish Family: Becoming a principal and returning to the world of education over the past two months has been exciting, exhilarating, overwhelming and challenging (and, yes, all at the same time!). Taking on this work is a privilege. It has required me to step back from things I do outside the parish. One of those areas has been my volunteer work as a social worker. I am not physically able to get to the group home as often as I would like. It’s been a loss for me. Last week, I was able to return to catch up with some of the young men I work with. The journey to recovery is never easy. So many of us know this. Yet, whenever I leave the group home it always with a sense of hope. That hope does not mean it is going to be easy for any of us. I just leave with a lifted spirit about those young people (and life, in general). That, too, is a privilege. At St. John’s we’re in a bit of a transition in the area of “formal” parish youth ministry.
Since Michael Clauberg’s departure in August, we have taken this time to study and discern where we want to go in the future. I did not want to rush in to something or into hiring someone without taking this time. I have asked Fr. Michael to lead a “work group” of parents, young people and volunteers to undergo an evaluation of where we have been, where we are and where we hope to go. Don’t be surprised if you’re asked for your opinion in the weeks ahead. In addition, the work group will meet with parents and young people, study other youth ministry programs and gather additional data. I have asked them to complete their work by the beginning of December. From there, we will make decisions as a Pastoral Team to discern our next steps. Not having a consistent youth ministry program is a change for us. I anticipate us returning to something more consistent following the report of the work group. I know this might be a reason to lose hope. While we are in an “in-between” time, there are many reasons to have hope for the role of young people in our parish. I think of all that has been shared with me over the past few days (you can see signs of it in our bulletin).
Our Scouting ministry helped to raise awareness for a scout who lost his life. Our CYO program has doubled in size over the past year. High school teens were present throughout our 1:8 Confirmation. Our Family Life Ministry is coming with great ideas to bring families together. Our Youth Service Corps continues to serve when help is needed. OLQA is alive with many new opportunities for middle school students. (I hope you and your family are open to learning more about the difference Catholic schools can make!)
We see signs of a new spirit with servers getting ready to serve at the altar. None of these are a replacement for a youth ministry “program” but help me to see the signs of the crucial role young people play in our parish. I am writing to you from a Principal’s/School Leader’s meeting at the Department of Education in Hicksville (don’t tell on me!). We’re discussing a process of evaluation that will allow us to better plan the future of our school community. It is a long meeting but I hope that it allows it to better serve our young people and local community. It is part of what inspires me to keep going each day. Let’s pray for the same for the youth of our parish community.
Please pray for me. Fr. John
Novena to St. Michael the Archangel: Safeguards - 9/23
Dear Parish Family:
Many people like Pope Francis. They find him approachable, are able to take some challenging lessons from him and often are engaged by his presence. If you listen to Pope Francis or read his homilies, there are few times when he doesn’t speak about the power of evil and the presence of Satan. Just last week, he said, “Among us is the great accuser, the one who will always accuse us in front of God to destroy us: Satan. He is the great accuser. And when I enter into this logic of accusing, cursing and looking to do evil to others, I enter into the logic of the ‘Great Accuser’ who is a ‘Destroyer,’ who doesn’t know the word ‘mercy,'” (13 September 2018).
There are many places to accuse, curse and look to places of evil revenge in these days, particularly in the life of the Church. We have read articles, heard homilies, seen websites that do all of that and more! It’s this one’s fault! It’s this sexual orientation. It’s this pope’s fault or that one’s. It’s this teaching about priestly celibacy or marriage. It’s that seminary formation or formator. It’s that Cardinal, this Pastor, that priest’s commentary...and so on and so on. I have fallen into it. Perhaps you have too. I have been thinking a lot lately about the Prayer to St. Michael the Archangel.
I received one or two emails requesting that it be said at the end of Mass and a few others have spoken to me about it too. Fr. Michael said it at the end of Mass a few weeks ago. To be honest, my first reaction was not to go there. Part of it is that I am a liturgy nerd and I really do not want anything added to the time of mass. It’s not my place or yours to touch any part of the liturgy. Another part of me — the organizer — is concerned if we add this prayer now, what prayer will we need to add later for another challenging time in the Church and the world? And a dark side of me wants to blame this one and that one. In my anger, I find myself saying, “Why pray for this strength when it’s this other person’s issue?” Shame on me for that one. This week, I wrote to Bishop Andrzej Zglejszewski, an auxiliary bishop in the Diocese of Rockville Centre and the Vicar for Worship. I asked him for permission to pray the Prayer to St. Michael the Archangel after all of the Masses (as well as parish meetings, prayer services, events, etc.) throughout the Novena to St. Michael the Archangel whose feast day is September 29.
By the time you read this, we will have started praying the prayer on Thursday. We will pray the prayer for the last time at liturgy at the end of the 5 p.m. and 7:30 p.m. Masses next Saturday. I have had prayer cards made. They will be given out at Masses this weekend and will also be on the ledge of the new stained glass window of St. Michael the Archangel in the church. This praying of this prayer does not take away our need to accept responsibility and to make clear and positive change in the life of the Church. I am always afraid of that failure on my part. Think of the story of the First Sin in the Book of Genesis (3:10-13). Blame is placed everywhere (She made me do it...the serpent made me do it). We’re good at being those accusers, even as a Church. We need to pray and accept responsibility so that just as our church building was rebuilt, repaired and restored, our Church may be as well. Here’s how Pope Francis concluded that same homily cited above “...accuse yourself. It will do you good. The only licit accusation that we Christians have is to accuse ourselves. For others, there is only mercy because we are children of the father who is merciful...” May we be honest about our need for God’s mercy in these days and so be ministers of that mercy to others.
St. Michael the Archangel, ...be our safeguard...pray for us.
Searching for the Spirit - 9/9
Dear Parish Family:
A few weeks ago, I wrote about the feeling of defeat with all that is happening in the larger Church. Many of you identified with that but also challenged it. I appreciate that. I find myself filled with more of the Spirit in these days. I think part of it is taking time to see the incredible things happening in the Church today, particularly here at SJE. Seeing the many ways the Body of Christ is moving and transforming lives— from school to social ministry, from outreach to organizations, from ministry to mission — frankly, there’s too much good work to do to feel defeated.
I find myself not ignoring the sins of the Church. I find myself seeing more than the brokenness and woundedness. I see the healing of brokenness and binding up of woundedness. I feel I am more aware of Christ’s presence in my life these days and challenged to grow ever closer to Him. I’ve been listening a lot lately to Cardinal Dolan about a lot of these things. He seems to present and approach things in a way I can connect and identify with – maybe you too? I’m putting a recent article of his from Catholic New York. It helped me in my search for a renewed spirit. Maybe you too?
Today’s Way of the Cross
By Timothy Cardinal Dolan: August 30, 2018
Yes, I know that the classical, popular devotion, the Via Crucis—reverently accompanying Jesus on His tortured journey from unjust condemnation by Pontius Pilate, to His repose in the arms of His sorrowful mother at the foot of the cross, to His burial in a donated sepulcher—is in fourteen steps. I love that devotion, especially on Fridays and during Lent. But, can I offer an abbreviated one, in only three steps, that has hit me during my listening and observing the deep hurt in the Body of Christ, the Church, caused by the nauseating news of clergy sexual abuse and gross negligence by bishops?
Many of my brother bishops and priests, as well as our lay faithful, have spoken and written about this horror of late, some thoughtfully, some less so. I myself have commented a bit, but, over the past two months, I’ve done more listening, remembering, and reflecting, than talking. Three episodes haunt me, and I consider them three steps on the Way of the Cross today.
Station #1...While I vividly and painfully remember the dozens and dozens of meetings I’ve had with victims and their families over the last sixteen years, one particularly haunts me still. There I was, fifteen-years or-so- ago, with a victim of abuse by a priest twenty years before. With him were his parents, extraordinarily sincere Catholics. “When he told me, when he was sixteen, that Father X, the popular priest in our parish, a good friend of our family, had abused him, you know what I did?” asked the dad as he looked at me. “I slapped him!”
Dad began to cry, his whole body shivering. “I slapped my own son! I screamed at him, ‘Don’t you dare say that about a priest!’” Can you imagine the remorse, the agony of that father? Can we even fathom the crushing sadness of the son, the helpless sorrow of the mom? Can you imagine my shame and sorrow?
Our victims and their families are suffering. They are cherished members of the Church as much as any priest, bishop, or cardinal. How we have wounded them! How much we owe them contrition and solidarity.
The first station: Victims and their families grievously hurt.
Station #2...She’s in assisted living now, almost ninety, still, thank God, in decent shape. She loves her Catholic faith. She has a son a priest, four other children living their faith, handing it on to their kids, her grandkids. She is always eager to talk about the Church to her friends, Catholic and non-Catholic alike.
But not on the day last week I talked to her on the phone. “Tim,” she said to me, “I skipped lunch today. I’m ashamed to go to the dining room. I’m so embarrassed to be a Catholic. I don’t know what to say to anybody!” She’s my mom. Only one of the millions of faithful Catholics who today are ashamed of their clergy and bishops, of their Church.
The second station: Our faithful people mourn for their Church. Station #3...He’s one of the best priests I know, grateful for his vocation, proud to be known as a parish priest. As he prepared to take the train home after an enjoyable visit with me, he remarked, “I’m not wearing my clerical collar. I’m too ashamed. I’m afraid that people will sneer at me or shout at me.” Or the innocent priest in the southwest, beaten in the sacristy after offering Mass, the crazed man yelling, “This is for what you priests did to young people.” They’re but two of the overwhelming majority of our priests (and bishops) who live virtuous, faithful lives, who now are tarred by the vicious perversion of a
iny minority of their brethren.
The Third Station: Our Faithful Priests mourn their vocation. I’ve listened; I’ve seen; I’ve heard; I’ve read. So have you. I really don’t know what to say...except, as we pray at the Stations of the Cross, “We adore Thee, O Christ, and we praise Thee! Because by Thy Holy Cross Thou hast redeemed the world!” Or, with St. Peter, as we heard in last Sunday’s gospel, “Lord, to whom else shall we go? You alone have the words of everlasting life.”
NOTHING TO SAY - 8/26
This past week has one of the toughest in my nearly seven years of priesthood and beyond. I think I felt similarly in 2002 when news started to break out in our diocese. The stories of the Pennsylvania Grand Jury Report are not necessarily new and most of the cases are horrific cases of the past. I guess that combined with the humanity of the Church - and the darkness within parts of that humanity—I’m defeated. That’s the word that keeps coming up in my conversation and my prayer.
I find consolation that we have been praying with the sixth chapter of John’s Gospel over the past few weeks. It’s reminding me of how important the Eucharist is going to be in my own work of coming up from defeat; hopefully the Church’s too.
I feel inadequate and am probably too hurt by all of this to offer any words. I felt a little less defeated when Pope Francis wrote to the People of God this week. I am putting the entire letter in the bulletin. Please take some time to read it. I know it’s long. I felt even less defeated when I finished reading it. I hope you will too.
Please pray for me.
Letter of His Holiness Pope Francis To the People of God
“If one member suffers, all suffer together with it” (1 Cor 12:26). These words of Saint Paul forcefully echo in my heart as I acknowledge once more the suffering endured by many minors due to sexual abuse, the abuse of power and the abuse of conscience perpetrated by a significant number of clerics and consecrated persons. Crimes that inflict deep wounds of pain and powerlessness, primarily among the victims, but also in their family members and in the larger community of believers and non-believers alike. Looking back to the past, no effort to beg pardon and to seek to repair the harm done will ever be sufficient. Looking ahead to the future, no effort must be spared to create a culture able to prevent such situations from happening, but also to prevent the possibility of their being covered up and perpetuated. The pain of the victims and their families is also our pain, and so it is urgent that we once more reaffirm our commitment to ensure the protection of minors and of vulnerable adults.
1. If one member suffers… In recent days, a report was made public which detailed the experiences of at least a thousand survivors, victims of sexual abuse, the abuse of power and of conscience at the hands of priests over a period of approximately seventy years. Even though it can be said that most of these cases belong to the past, nonetheless as time goes on we have come to know the pain of many of the victims. We have realized that these wounds never disappear and that they require us forcefully to condemn these atrocities and join forces in uprooting this culture of death; these wounds never go away. The heart-wrenching pain of these victims, which cries out to heaven, was long ignored, kept quiet or silenced. But their outcry was more powerful than all the measures meant to silence it, or sought even to resolve it by decisions that increased its gravity by falling into complicity. The Lord heard that cry and once again showed us on which side he stands. Mary’s song is not mistaken and continues quietly to echo throughout history. For the Lord remembers the promise he made to our fathers: “he has scattered the proud in their conceit; he has cast down the mighty from their thrones and lifted up the lowly; he has filled the hungry with good things, and the rich he has sent away empty” (Lk 1:51-53). We feel shame when we realize that our style of life has denied, and continues to deny, the words we recite.
With shame and repentance, we acknowledge as an ecclesial community that we were not where we should have been, that we did not act in a timely manner, realizing the magnitude and the gravity of the damage done to so many lives. We showed no care for the little ones; we abandoned them. I make my own the words of the then Cardinal Ratzinger when, during the Way of the Cross composed for Good Friday 2005, he identified with the cry of pain of so many victims and exclaimed: “How much filth there is in the Church, and even among those who, in the priesthood, ought to belong entirely to [Christ]! How much pride, how much self-complacency! Christ’s betrayal by his disciples, their unworthy reception of his body and blood, is certainly the greatest suffering endured by the Redeemer; it pierces his heart. We can only call to him from the depths of our hearts: Kyrie eleison – Lord, save us! (cf. Mt 8:25)” (Ninth Station).
2. … all suffer together with it. The extent and the gravity of all that has happened requires coming to grips with this reality in a comprehensive and communal way. While it is important and necessary on every journey of conversion to acknowledge the truth of what has happened, in itself this is not enough. Today we are challenged as the People of God to take on the pain of our brothers and sisters wounded in their flesh and in their spirit. If, in the past, the response was one of omission, today we want solidarity, in the deepest and most challenging sense, to become our way of forging present and future history. And this in an environment where conflicts, tensions and above all the victims of every type of abuse can encounter an outstretched hand to protect them and rescue them from their pain (cf. Evangelii Gaudium, 228). Such solidarity demands that we in turn condemn whatever endangers the integrity of any person. A solidarity that summons us to fight all forms of corruption, especially spiritual corruption. The latter is “a comfortable and self-satisfied form of blindness. Everything then appears acceptable: deception, slander, egotism and other subtle forms of self-centeredness, for ‘even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light’ (2 Cor 11:14)” (Gaudete et Exsultate, 165). Saint Paul’s exhortation to suffer with those who suffer is the best antidote against all our attempts to repeat the words of Cain: “Am I my brother's keeper?” (Gen 4:9).
I am conscious of the effort and work being carried out in various parts of the world to come up with the necessary means to ensure the safety and protection of the integrity of children and of vulnerable adults, as well as implementing zero tolerance and ways of making all those who perpetrate or cover up these crimes accountable. We have delayed in applying these actions and sanctions that are so necessary, yet I am confident that they will help to guarantee a greater culture of care in the present and future.
Together with those efforts, every one of the baptized should feel involved in the ecclesial and social change that we so greatly need. This change calls for a personal and communal conversion that makes us see things as the Lord does. For as Saint John Paul II liked to say: “If we have truly started out anew from the contemplation of Christ, we must learn to see him especially in the faces of those with whom he wished to be identified” (Novo Millennio Ineunte, 49). To see things as the Lord does, to be where the Lord wants us to be, to experience a conversion of heart in his presence. To do so, prayer and penance will help. I invite the entire holy faithful People of God to a penitential exercise of prayer and fasting, following the Lord’s command. This can awaken our conscience and arouse our solidarity and commitment to a culture of care that says “never again” to every form of abuse.
It is impossible to think of a conversion of our activity as a Church that does not include the active participation of all the members of God’s People. Indeed, whenever we have tried to replace, or silence, or ignore, or reduce the People of God to small elites, we end up creating communities, projects, theological approaches, spiritualities and structures without roots, without memory, without faces, without bodies and ultimately, without lives. This is clearly seen in a peculiar way of understanding the Church’s authority, one common in many communities where sexual abuse and the abuse of power and conscience have occurred. Such is the case with clericalism, an approach that “not only nullifies the character of Christians, but also tends to diminish and undervalue the baptismal grace that the Holy Spirit has placed in the heart of our people”. Clericalism, whether fostered by priests themselves or by lay persons, leads to an excision in the ecclesial body that supports and helps to perpetuate many of the evils that we are condemning today. To say “no” to abuse is to say an emphatic “no” to all forms of clericalism.
It is always helpful to remember that “in salvation history, the Lord saved one people. We are never completely ourselves unless we belong to a people. That is why no one is saved alone, as an isolated individual. Rather, God draws us to himself, taking into account the complex fabric of interpersonal relationships present in the human community. God wanted to enter into the life and history of a people” (Gaudete et Exsultate, 6). Consequently, the only way that we have to respond to this evil that has darkened so many lives is to experience it as a task regarding all of us as the People of God. This awareness of being part of a people and a shared history will enable us to acknowledge our past sins and mistakes with a penitential openness that can allow us to be renewed from within. Without the active participation of all the Church’s members, everything being done to uproot the culture of abuse in our communities will not be successful in generating the necessary dynamics for sound and realistic change. The penitential dimension of fasting and prayer will help us as God’s People to come before the Lord and our wounded brothers and sisters as sinners imploring forgiveness and the grace of shame and conversion. In this way, we will come up with actions that can generate resources attuned to the Gospel. For “whenever we make the effort to return to the source and to recover the original freshness of the Gospel, new avenues arise, new paths of creativity open up, with different forms of expression, more eloquent signs and words with new meaning for today’s world” (Evangelii Gaudium, 11).
It is essential that we, as a Church, be able to acknowledge and condemn, with sorrow and shame, the atrocities perpetrated by consecrated persons, clerics, and all those entrusted with the mission of watching over and caring for those most vulnerable. Let us beg forgiveness for our own sins and the sins of others. An awareness of sin helps us to acknowledge the errors, the crimes and the wounds caused in the past and allows us, in the present, to be more open and committed along a journey of renewed conversion.
Likewise, penance and prayer will help us to open our eyes and our hearts to other people’s sufferings and to overcome the thirst for power and possessions that are so often the root of those evils. May fasting and prayer open our ears to the hushed pain felt by children, young people and the disabled. A fasting that can make us hunger and thirst for justice and impel us to walk in the truth, supporting all the judicial measures that may be necessary. A fasting that shakes us up and leads us to be committed in truth and charity with all men and women of good will, and with society in general, to combatting all forms of the abuse of power, sexual abuse and the abuse of conscience.
In this way, we can show clearly our calling to be “a sign and instrument of communion with God and of the unity of the entire human race” (Lumen Gentium, 1). “If one member suffers, all suffer together with it”, said Saint Paul. By an attitude of prayer and penance, we will become attuned as individuals and as a community to this exhortation, so that we may grow in the gift of compassion, in justice, prevention and reparation. Mary chose to stand at the foot of her Son’s cross. She did so unhesitatingly, standing firmly by Jesus’ side. In this way, she reveals the way she lived her entire life. When we experience the desolation caused by these ecclesial wounds, we will do well, with Mary, “to insist more upon prayer”, seeking to grow all the more in love and fidelity to the Church (SAINT IGNATIUS OF LOYOLA, Spiritual Exercises, 319). She, the first of the disciples, teaches all of us as disciples how we are to halt before the sufferings of the innocent, without excuses or cowardice. To look to Mary is to discover the model of a true follower of Christ.
May the Holy Spirit grant us the grace of conversion and the interior anointing needed to express before these crimes of abuse our compunction and our resolve courageously to combat them.
John 6: Living Forever - 8/12
Dear Parish Family:
You know the past few weeks – and two more weeks to go – we have been praying with the sixth chapter of the Gospel of John. We do this every time we are in Year B of the Liturgical Cycle. This fills in some of the space as the Gospel of Mark is the shortest of the four gospels.
I hope the weeks prior, today and ahead give us some opportunity to consider our own approach to the gift of the Eucharist. It has been a challenging few weeks, for me, in our parish and turning these pages has given me some “food for thought” if you will. May my thoughts – or better yet – the way God has been calling me out perhaps be a support to you!
“They themselves got into boats…looking for Jesus” (John 6:25). How hard are you and I looking? Are we searching for Jesus in our midst? They seek him and find him (even if they’re not quite sure how he got to where he was). Are we searching hard enough for Jesus? Are we taking advantage of enough of the times we have to “recline” (John 6:10)?
An area I hope we can get more participation in is adoration during our times of Exposition of the Blessed Sacrament. So far only about six parishioners have committed to taking an hour. I think we can do better than that, no? Are we looking hard enough? I would love to see each of the hours filled and am more than open to adding morning hours of adoration. I am hoping that Seton Chapel can become a place of extended adoration in the months to come. If you have not committed to an hour a week, would you think about it? I updated the form today to see about morning possibilities.
“Do not work for food that perishes but for the food that endures for eternal life...” (John 6:27). Do I see the eucharist I receive at Mass linked to my eternal life? I hope you notice that each “Prayer After Communion” – the prayer that concludes the Communion Rite often contains a clear link. In today’s prayer, we pray: “May the communion in your Sacrament that we have consumed, save us, O Lord…”. Each time we gather for Mass, we do not receive practical nourishment, but nourishment that saves us, that can lead us to eternal life.
Do I see this connection? Sometimes yes, sometimes no. Maybe the same for you? How easy can it be to stay on the level of the “food that perishes”, the things of this world? It’s not to say the things of this world are unimportant. But are they in the right order in my life? In yours? I often catch myself - and probably more often don’t – having things not in the right order. Concerned with details, failing to keep in mind a final destination. Remember, “whoever believes have eternal life” (John 6:47). Taking some time in adoration (see paragraph above) might help to remember well the gift that brings eternal life.
I am often humbled to bring the eucharist to the homebound. I try to visit a parishioner or two weekly to pray with them and to bring communion. I think of a beautiful mom and wife who is moving closer and closer to the eternal life that Christ offers us. After reading the Sunday scripture, I minister communion. She is calmer, at peace. She knows. Perhaps her anxiety isn’t just about her illness and all that comes with this. It’s about her desire to look for Jesus and find him in the eucharist. I never fail to leave overwhelmed by her and disappointed in myself. It reminds me that I’m not looking hard enough. I’m not trusting enough. I’m failing to keep my eye on the life to come.
Let’s pray that we can be “imitators of God, as beloved children” (Ephesians 5:1). It is very hard to imitate what we don’t watch, enter into, come to know very well. Let’s consider ways we can look harder, recline in His presence a bit more and see the new life he promises us. Please pray for me.
Change in Youth Ministry - Yellow Arrows - 7/30
Dear Parish Family:
I tend to write these letters on the Wednesday before the Sunday of the “published deadline”. (You won’t be surprised to learn that the deadline was Monday.) Today, as I write, the Church celebrates the Feast of St. James. St. James is known for many things—more than can be written here. A spiritual tradition that has developed in the Church is the Camino de Santiago or the Way of St. James. It’s a spiritual walk that can take as long as thirty days or more to complete. The walk is challenging with a pilgrim walking 20 to 30 miles a day. You might remember that Paul Clores walked part of the Camino last summer.
The walk is a symbolic journey. The ups and downs of the hills, the different directions taken, the need to walk with others and walk alone, embracing the hospitality of others who are on the way are just some of the reflections that many share after this journey. Yellow arrows—some big, some small— guide the pilgrim to know where to turn to get to the next part of the journey. It’s a physical and spiritual journey that I hope one day I can enter. I write today to inform you that Michael Clauberg has resigned his position as Director of Youth Ministry effective this August. Mike has been part of the SJE community for over 21 years serving in youth ministry here while also carrying out work with young people throughout his time here at Mercy High School, Our Lady of Mercy School in Cutchogue, St. Anthony’s High School in South Huntington, St. John the Baptist in Wading River and serving as a regional leader in Life Teen International (and that’s just part of it!). To say Mike is a force in the field of youth ministry would be an understatement. He will become the youth minister a St. Patrick’s R.C. Church in Huntington at the end of August.
I write with a bit of a saddened heart because the “yellow arrow” that brings Mike to St. Patrick’s is a loss for SJE on some levels. Whenever a leader in a parish—who has been ingrained as long as Mike has—moves on, it leaves a significant hole that, quite simply, can never be filled. For many years, Mike has shared God’s gifts given to him to bring many young people closer to Christ and His Church via programs like Life Teen, EDGE, CYO and the like. More so, Mike’s efforts at relationship with young people have made as much, if not more, of a significant impact. I hope and pray Mike’s work with the young people presently in the South Huntington area at St. Anthony’s will carry over to his work at St. Patrick’s. Mike will return to working with Msgr. Steve Camp, the present Pastor at St. Patrick’s. Then Fr. Steve Camp served here for many years at OLQA and St. Jude’s in Mastic Beach in the 1990s.
Where do we go from here? Right now, I’m not sure where the “yellow arrows” are pointing for youth ministry at SJE. There is no “replacement” for Mike and there cannot be one. I am beginning to meet with the members of the Core teams of Life Teen and EDGE and hope to listen to them as we discern the next steps. After talking with members of the Pastoral Team, I think the best thing we can do is to not rush into brining someone on board to fill a position. The role is too important. This will leave us with a gap in the upcoming months in our official youth ministry program.
So the next months will be a time of transition for Michael Clauberg and for our parish community. There is a sense of deep loss for Mike, I’m sure, and for our parish without question. I know God will place good yellow arrows showing us the “Buen Camino” - the “Good Way” - in the months ahead. Please pray for Mike in these days of transition and, if you can, please say a prayer for me.
P.S. We are in the process of planning a “Good Way” celebration for Mike on Sunday, August 19 after the 5:30 p.m. mass. Check future issues of the bulletin for more info. If you would like to be part of the planning, please contact Michelle Pirraglia at email@example.com or leave a message in the Faith Formation office.
Humanae Vitae at 50: God’s Gift of Sexuality - SUMMER READING
Dear Parish Family:
You might read this headline and say, “Good grief, Fr. John. It’s summer. A little heavy, no?” Perhaps. As you can read in other parts of the bulletin, we mark the 50th Anniversary of Humanae Vitae, the encyclical issued by soon to be saint Paul VI about married life. It has often been reduced to its definitive teaching on contraception but there is much more here than that! Bishop Barres is issuing a pastoral letter entitled, The Supreme Gift: TheGift of Life this week and it is an opportunity to reflect on where we are at with the Church’s call to married love and human sexuality.
Last year, I celebrated Mass on a Friday in the group home where I volunteer. The readings related to chastity and the proper and improper uses of the gift of sexuality. I read from a letter from Archbishop Charles Chaput, the archbishop of Philadelphia. I may have quoted it in this column before. (It I did, it’s worth a second post!)
“What we do with our bodies matters. Sex is linked intimately to human identity and purpose. If our lives have no higher meaning than what we invent for ourselves, then sex is just another kind of modeling clay. We can shape it any way we please. But if our lives do have a higher purpose – and as Christians, we find that purpose in the Word of God — then so does our sexuality.
Acting in ways that violate that purpose becomes a form of self-abuse; and not just self-abuse, but a source of confusion and suffering for the wider culture. The fact that an individual’s body might incline him or her to one sort of damaging sexual behavior, or to another very different sort, doesn’t change this.”
I worry that just as some reduce the teaching of Humanae Vitae to its teaching about contraception, we have done the same with sexuality. We reduce it to a series of actions. We get caught up in one teaching or another. We follow some. We may ignore others. We fail to see the whole picture. That’s just not how the Church sees it. It’s not how you and are I to see it. We see this gift of sexuality as so powerful, so amazing. It’s so powerful that it can produce life if it is God’s will. How can you and I do anything that might get in the way of the will of God?
As we mark this 50th anniversary of Humanae Vitae, maybe it’s a good time to ask a few questions of ourselves. Here are a few:
• What is the Church’s teaching on sexuality? Do I know it? Do I desire to understand it?
• Do I see sexuality and sexual activity as part of my “higher calling”?
• Do I consider the Church’s teaching when it comes to issues related to birth control, marriage, living together before marriage, being married outside the Church?
• Have I talked to my children about the Church’s teaching about human sexuality making sure my values and the church’s values are enforced and practiced or have I chosen to look the other way?
• Do I work hard enough to resist temptations related to sexuality, like pornography, physical relationships, sexting, inappropriate conversations and the like? Do I make sure those God has entrusted to me do the same?
I worry that we have “thrown in the towel”. We deceive ourselves saying, “Look at world. How can we ever carry out these teachings?” We settle for certain behaviors in ourselves and others. In doing so, we cheapen God’s gift of sexuality. We cheapen ourselves. We wind up pulling further away from Christ and His Church.
The Chapel was quiet that day last summer. After Mass, while shaking hands, many of the men made it a point to say something to me. Most were challenged and many said, “I needed to hear that.” Maybe in the weeks ahead we can re-examine our understanding of the Church’s teaching about sexuality. We might find out that we need to hear it again too.
Please pray for me.
Wisdom and Grace: Senior Ministry
"Now that I am old and gray, do not forsake me, God, that I may proclaim your might to all generations yet to come. Your power and justice, God, to the highest heaven. You have done great things…
My lips will shout for joy as I sing your praise; my soul, too, which you have redeemed." —Psalm 71
Dear Parish Family:
I have spent most of ministerial life working with young people. To this day, I commit a tremendous amount of time here to the work of OLQA and Faith Formation and do the best I can to be present to the youth ministry activities of the parish. Prior to entering the seminary, I worked as a campus minister at a high school and a youth minister in the parish. As a social worker, my primary work is with young people. As a parish and a church, we commit a great amount of resources and time to the work of youth ministry and we should and we must!
At the same time, I have always struggled with the comparable lack of resources to those at the other end of life—those persons of wisdom who are the foundation of the Church here at St. John’s and everywhere else. For sure, the needs are different. I find that we rely tremendously on older parishioners for their financial support, leadership, experience, wisdom and participation (and we should and we must!). At the same time, I do not know that we always provide enough support and encouragement, presence and resources for the seniors of the Church and, specifically, at St. John’s. I fear, sometimes, we may take older people for granted. We shouldn’t and we can’t.
Over the past few months, I have been talking regularly with Sister Ann about the possibility of starting a more official senior ministry here at St. John the Evangelist. I am excited to announce that beginning today, July 15th, Sister Ann is the new Director of Senior Ministry at St. John the Evangelist. She is excited too! This will be a great opportunity for our parish as we seek to develop new ways to better engage, involve and support those people of wisdom in our parish.
In my two years at St. John’s, I have been overwhelmed by the wisdom and grace of Sister Ann. Because of her tremendous experience and deep love for the Church, I have come to rely on her advice and her presence. What a gift she is going to continue to be as she charts a new path for our parish’s future.
In taking on this new position, Sister Ann will be stepping away from the day to day of parish social ministry. Beginning today, Alex Finta (pictured left with his fiancé) who has served as the Associate Director of Parish Social Ministry will be the Director of Parish Social Ministry. In the time Alex has been here as a social work intern, Associate Director of Parish Social Ministry and the School Social Worker, he has gained a great deal from his experience here and has brought many great gifts to the life of our parish. He has worked hand in hand with Sister Ann on many projects and I have great hope that even more good things are on the horizon! And good news for him—a person of wisdom and grace will continue to be working with him in this new role (and keeping her eye on him too!).
Please pray for me.
Celebrating God’s Gift of Priesthood: Father Felix At 40
Dear Parish Family:
I first stepped foot on the grounds of St. John the Evangelist as the incoming Pastor on March 15, 2016. I came here to meet Fr. Walter and see just what exactly Bishop Murphy had gotten me into! I remember that day meeting my Spiritual Director in Blue Point (to reflect on the previous sentence) and then driving down Montauk Highway taking in what, for me, was this new part of Long Island.
I arrived early and walked into the church. As I came in I was greeted by a priest who was locking the church building in the early afternoon. He let me stay but said I had to close the door behind me tightly. He did not know who I was and I did not know who he was. However, that day was the beginning of a beautiful friendship and connection. You can probably figure out that I am speaking about Fr. Felix.
On July 2, Fr. Felix celebrated his 40th anniversary as a priest. I think you agree that St. John’s has been blessed well by Fr. Felix’s presence here over the past eight years. In my time living, praying, and ministering with Fr. Felix, I have come to know a man of sage-like wisdom, incredible prayer and devotion, incredible intelligence and a deep humility that always deflects the attention away from him to the other – most often Christ.
I am most humbled and amazed by Fr. Felix’s great devotion to the sick and homebound. A few months ago, we were called together to visit a sick person. He had his whole kit of things and simply said, “Follow me. I will show you.” And he did. It wasn’t what was in the kit. It was the man of deep faith who offered great consolation and hope to one who was dying. I know many call Fr. Felix and he prays with the homebound on the phone and takes time to listen all through the night. What a gift!
I am most challenged by Fr. Felix’s advice and wisdom. I often ask him for it. He has a great ability to see the entirety of a situation or moment. He offers critique, encouragement, support and correction (I need all of it!). Never is it done with anything but a sincere heart and good intention (and usually a good Fr. Felix laugh!). Recently, a young person was sitting in my office waiting to see me about something pretty serious and Fr. Felix seeing him went in, sat down and called out his name and said, “…now you listen to me. I have something to tell you. You need to listen….” The kid did, commenting later, “Fr. Felix made some good points. Too bad you’re not as smart as him, Fr. John.” (The kid was proud of himself!)
A few months ago, I received notice from Bishop Barres that he accepted both my request and Fr. Felix’s request that his assignment be extended here at St. John’s. Fr. Felix’s assignment was not extended for one year but for two! We’re doubly blessed. There have been many signs of God’s grace and blessing my time here at SJE! It all started with that priest I met my first day here on campus!
P.S. This week four of our parishioners/OLQA graduates are participating in the Camp Quo Vadis, a great experience for young people, at the Seminary of the Immaculate Conception. Led by some of our more newly ordained priests, women religious and seminarians, including our own Seminarian Joe, this promises to be a great week for them and, we pray, for the Church.
Gratitude...Going Forward ONGOING CONSTRUCTION
Dear Parish Family:
As I write this column, we are addressing the final details for our rededication weekend. The Novena of Spirit and Truth has given each of us much to consider in these days of preparation for Saturday evening’s Mass and our return to regular use of the church building. We come to this day filled with great gratitude for the many hands, hearts and minds that have come together over the past 13 months and 5 days to manage, organize, facilitate, encourage and empower this restoration project.
There were more than a few surprises in the process and more delays than we anticipated or expected. We are especially grateful to the Diocese of Rockville Centre for their willingness to allow us carry out this project. The Town of Brookhaven — from the Supervisor Romaine to each person we worked with — has been incredibly supportive and helpful (more than we could have ever hoped for). Our architect, project manager, general contractor and so many various contractors came to see their work here as more than a building project but the work of creating a space of prayer and worship. They got it!
At Saint John the Evangelist, we have many reasons to be grateful. The parish community as a whole has come together in the midst of all of this to find, I hope, a greater appreciation for what church is really all about. We see it in the prayer, devotion, flexibility, openness, patience, understanding and incredible hard work carried out by so many. We see it in the ongoing and growing work of ministry and mission we have been called to enter into over these months. We see it in many who have stepped up to bring about the restoration of the church building and the continuing restoration of the Kingdom of God here and now. Projects like this need a quarterback. They need someone who keeps the ball moving, if you will. I hope you can join me in expressing great gratitude to Katie Waller, our Business Manager. Katie was here on May 17, 2017 and carried us through that day. Since May 17th, she has been the driving force in getting things done at all times and days. If there was a contractor who needed to be challenged, building information needed, direction given, encouragement offered, work to be done, Katie has been the one to bring it all together (and usually with a smile and some good humor too!).
Are we done? Is the project finished? No way. While the work of the church building restoration is largely complete, we know that as a parish we have a great deal of work to do. In the Office of Readings for the Common of the Dedication of the Church, St. Augustine writes, “We are gathered together to celebrate the dedication of a house of prayer. This is our house of prayer, but we too are a house of God. If we are a house of God, its construction goes on in times that it may be dedicated at the end of time. The house, in its construction, involves hard work, while its dedication is an occasion for rejoicing.” So we have hard work ahead if we are going to continue the necessary restoration work that will carry us to the end of time. As individuals, what in you and in me needs to be restored? Where is forgiveness needed or where does it need to be offered? What ways must I grow closer to God in the days ahead? What am I going to do to make that happen?
As a parish, the missionary work of the Gospel requires constant restoration. We need to continue to develop opportunities for prayer and devotion to our God. We need to look at how we can even more powerfully minister to even more of the poor and the vulnerable — both young and not so young — through Parish Social Ministry and Youth Ministry. We have a great Catholic school that needs to grow so more young people can be inspired with the faith. We need to connect to more families so they know about the great things happening here at SJE! Is what lies ahead overwhelming? I suppose some would say yes. For we who have gone through this year of restoration, the ideas above and others should not be overwhelming. To me, and I hope to you, they are reasons for hope.
Father's Day 2018
Dear Parish Family:
Today, a good friend asked me, “Are you ready for Sunday? You going to be OK?” It took me a minute to realize what he was referring to—Father’s Day. My heart sank a bit. As many of you know my dad passed away a few months after I arrived here. I dreaded last year’s Father’s Day and to be honest it was not as bad as I feared. In some ways, I am finding this year’s Father’s Day a little more challenging.I find that it’s not the big things that I miss—though I do. It’s the small things that I miss the most. If you have lost a dad—through death, perhaps to divorce or separation or abandonment or neglect or whatever—you might be able to relate. You know it’s the small things that often tug strongest. For me, I remember my dad always be so gracious and humble. Never drawing attention to himself. Always looking to make sure everyone else was comfortable or at ease. Even in sickness and suffering, he never worried about himself. “What’s the latest?” I remember him asking whenever I would see him or “ Keep me posted” as I would leave. Not the scenes of dramatic movies but I think it’s those small things I miss the most. You know some of those small things too—a regular phrase, a warm gesture, a card given, a note shared and so on. It is also those small things that I can most quickly lose sight of in all areas of my life. I think that is what Jesus is getting at in today’s Gospel. God works that way, in the small and simple. We can so easily miss it. Caught in sight — what we want to see —we fail to see with eyes of faith. St. Paul reminds us, “We walk by faith, not by sight.” Yet we see with human eyes, human things instead of longing for the vision to see far beyond the “things” of this world.
I hope you can see some of those mustard seed moments as we journey together through the Novena of Spirit and Truth. Through praying, fasting and even planting, we are coming together to see it is often in the small and simple ways that God makes his presence known. The week ahead we will be invited to forgiveness (Monday), fun (Tuesday), prayer and remembering (Wednesday), service (Thursday) and offering (Friday). The opportunities in this Novena of Spirit and Truth are not meant to be “big” things. They are simple mustard seed opportunities for each one of us see the presence of God here and now with those eyes of faith.
As I reflect upon the journey of this year, there have been some big moments, for sure. Some of those moments were positive and some a bit negative. I tend to let those go a little more easily than the smaller moments. I think of the altar server who asked after all that happened in the church, “What about the statues?” I remember the phone calls and texts from friends from all over on May 17, 2017. I remember people coming forward offering whatever they could in those first days. I think of the many kind, simple words to me over the year. It’s the not the big things. It is the simple, quiet moments that take hold. Those are signs of God.
For from these small moments, I pray that new life as Jesus puts forth about the mustard seed may take hold for each of us and for our parish community. Keep me posted!
Please pray for me.
Narcan...Novena of Spirit and Truth - Where are you? Part II
Dear Parish Family:
To be honest, I did not read ahead to this week’s readings when I wrote last week’s bulletin column. It’s the same title without the adorable picture. Check www.sjecm.org if you’re not sure what I’m writing about.
The first reading today begins with the question from God to Adam and Eve — “Where are you?” (Genesis 3:9).
While I know the rest of the story is discouraging on humanity’s part, I always find great comfort in this opening part. God was looking. He was searching. He wanted to find them. I think he wants the same with you and me. Yet, like Adam and Eve, we’re pretty good at hiding. Pretty good at finding some place else to be. Perhaps making God’s job a little harder. I think God is asking that question of me pretty often. I hide well. “John, where are you? Come on! Let’s get things together here.” Maybe the same for you?
This week, I hope you will take some time to be found here at SJE! There are two areas I want to highlight.First, this Monday, we are sponsoring a Narcan training for all in the parish.
As you know, I am a social worker. My primary area of work presently is with young men addicted to heroin. Narcan is a drug that saves lives. Period. No, it doesn’t address the larger issues and it is not a solution to the heroin epidemic. It is a life saver. I can speak of least six young people whose lives were saved because of Narcan. Many of them have turn to a life of recovery and wellness. Let God find you here doing what you can to save the lives of others.
Second, I hope you will join in the Novena of Spirit and Truth. It begins this Thursday with an East End Holy Hour. We are so happy to welcome back Fr. Walter who will preach and help us to kick off the Novena (see page 4). On Friday, we invite everyone to participate in a Day of Fasting as we remember those who struggle and battle mental illness (see page 6). Fasting can be tough. Whenever fasting gets hard on Friday, say a prayer for someone you know who struggles with mental illness. Unite your hunger with their hunger here. Let God find you as you draw near in prayer to the suffering and wounded in our midst. Then, this weekend, we need you to step and help us make our grounds look beautiful. We are looking for individuals, families and ministries to help maintain our grounds. We would like you to plant on a certain area and maintain that area. You can read more about it on page 5. Let God find you doing what you can to restore good and holy ground here at SJE!
This week, you should receive a mailing from SJE about the summer. The mailing includes a Novena of Spirit and Truth prayer card. Please begin praying this prayer on Thursday as together we pray for the restoration of our church building and more importantly that we may restored to a “building from God, a dwelling not made with hands, eternal in heaven” (2 Corinthians 5:1).
So when God comes looking and asking “Where are you?” you and I can respond, “Right here!”
Please pray for me.
Remembering First Holy Communion… Where are You?
Dear Parish Family:
Today we celebrate the last of our “First” Holy Communions on this Solemnity of the Most Holy Body and Blood of Christ. The First Holy Communions have been wonderful celebrations and it has been affirming to see many second, third and fourth Holy Communions in the weeks since.
I cannot help but remember my own First Holy Communion at Our Lady of Lourdes in West Islip on May 7, 1983. (I know I was adorable and you don’t have to tell me :)!). I remember weeks of practicing and preparing and the excitement of receiving First Holy Communion on a Saturday morning. We were prepared by the Sisters of St. Joseph of Brentwood and prepared we were! They were exciting days. While I’m not sure I knew any more than any other second grader, the years that followed allowed me to grow in deeper and deeper awareness of the Real Presence in the Eucharist. (By the way, glasses were big in the 80s!)
I think of our journey over the past year. There have been a lot of liturgical challenges worshiping as we presently do in a temporary space that also serves as a “Gymatorium”. It hasn’t been the easiest time. With a change in the place comes a change in routine and then often comes some disorientation with our routine and things become less reverent and easily bad habits can creep in. I know it has happened to me—maybe to you, too? As we prepare to return to the restored church building, maybe it’s a good time for a little “check-up” on our habits and preparation for Holy Communion—before, and after Mass. Each can be summed up in our answer to one question— “Where are you?”
Where are you—before Mass? How are you and I coming to Mass? Are we rushing in at the last minute? Getting there late? Or perhaps we make excuses about parking and hide behind those? How are we dressing for Mass? Is it any different than going to the local softball game? Shouldn’t it be? Yet would we ever think about being late to a grandchild’s dance recital or son’s baseball game or dressing poorly for our niece’s wedding reception? Probably not. How about praying quietly and taking some time— say five or ten minutes before Mass begins—to arrive? Have we forgotten about the communion fast and taking that time to prepare ourselves for communion? What about confession? (There are plenty of opportunities here—see bulletin page 12.) Even better, what about reading the readings ahead of time at Mass? Come prepared!
Where are you—during Mass? You ever find yourself tuned out? Maybe not listening to the readings or becoming distracted by the comings and goings of the Auditorium? Perhaps not singing because you don’t care for this hymn or that one? Maybe not even praying the Eucharistic Prayer and allowing your mind to wander? Maybe not receiving the Eucharist in a proper manner? Have we added rituals and symbols to our reception of communion that are not in line with the liturgical practices of the Church? Do we do things at Mass to get attention or notice instead of praying communally as the church calls us to pray? Have we made our reception of communion our own personal act, and not a communal act of the assembly gathered? At times, maybe we’re thinking about leaving early, convincing ourselves if we receive the sacred host, it’s enough of Mass? (It’s not, by the way!) As we enter the restored church building, let’s be fully present to the liturgy and the eucharist giving everything we have got to the celebration!
Where are you—after Mass? We are often in a rush. What if we made an effort as a parish to stay a little longer after Mass? What about a quiet personal prayer of thanksgiving in the pew (yes there will be pews! And kneelers! Yeah!) after Mass is over? By how you live, have you and I become “what we have received—the Body of Christ”? Or have we gone back to life like the Mass didn’t even happen? Be prepared to be sent forth from the Mass!
The return to the restored church building is a great opportunity for each and every one of us! We will have a new physical answer to the question, “Where are you?” Let’s pray that when it comes to the deeper call of the Eucharist, we will have a deeper answer to the question “Where are you? By responding, “Here I am, Lord, present to you.” Who knows? You might even become as adorable as that kid in the picture!
Please pray for me.
A Community Remembers and Responds
Dear Parish Family:
Last Friday, many of us came together for a powerful evening of prayer as we marked one year since the tragedies in the church building. The celebration of the Eucharist brings us to the encounter with the Paschal Mystery. I am so grateful for the presence of local agencies that support the mentally ill and their families who prayed with us and offered resources.
Fr. Michael brought us great hope and reassurance in his preaching last Friday (see box below). Speaking of his visit with Pope Francis, I am mindful of his words in most recent Apostolic Exhortation, “Rejoice and Be Glad”. He writes: Growth in holiness is a journey in community, side by side with others. We see this in some holy communities. From time to time, the Church has canonized entire communities that lived the Gospel heroically or offered to God the lives of all their members…living or working alongside others is surely a path of spiritual growth.” “You are living with others in order to be fashioned and tried”. (114)
I hope and pray that the days ahead will continue to see us walking side by side with one another and with Jesus. In that walking, may we continue to grow well on the path of spiritual growth.
Follow up from Fr. Michael’s homily last Friday at the Mass of Remembrance
About a month ago, I had one of the most incredible experiences of my life. I was able to go with Msgr. Vlaun and a small group from Telecare to Rome. While we were over there, we wound up having a private audience with Pope Francis, which lasted about 5 minutes. During this meeting I was able to speak one-on-one with the pope. I told Pope Francis about what happened in our parish about a month before my arrival, how a tormented man set our church on fire and took his life. I told him that we are reconstructing our church and then I asked him for a favor.
It is a custom for the pope to trade his white zucchetto (skull cap) with those who bring their own to him. I asked the pope if he would trade his zucchetto with me so that we could put one that he physically wore into our renovated church. As I was speaking with the Holy Father, he looked me in the eyes, his expression grew serious and I began to get emotional. He prayerfully took the zucchetto I had brought with me, placed it on his head, spent a moment of prayer with his eyes closed, and handed it back to me.
I am happy to announce that we will be putting this zucchetto into our newly renovated church building as a tangible sign of the Pope’s spiritual closeness to our parish. In the midst of this past year, filled with great pain and frustration, we have been given as a parish family so many reasons to hope. It is my prayer that this sign of hope, given to us by the pope himself, may serve as a reminder of that personal renovation and renewal we are always called to in our own journey with the Lord.
Please pray for me.
Fruits + Funded Feet and Formed - More Signs of the Spirit
Dear Parish Family:
Today, we celebrate Pentecost. With this feast, the season of Easter draws to a close and, I hope like the disciples in the locked room, we start to move out even further to bring the power of the Spirit to all we meet. One of the reading options for today’s liturgy is St. Paul’s Letter to the Galatians. If you need a little checklist to see how “Holy Spirit filled” you might be in these days, see what St. Paul says: “In contrast, the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, generosity, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control” (Galatians 5:22-23).
The truth? As I pray with this week’s readings, I’m not as a spirit filled as I know the Lord is calling. I could be more fruitful in my presence and practice, in my mission and ministry. From the Acts of the Apostles, we know the early disciples weren’t perfect when they left on that first Pentecost. Same for me. Maybe the same for you. Consider those signs that St. Paul gives us to consider. Maybe it’s all too much to take on. Perhaps one stands out that is most in need of work. It might be one way to see the graces and blessings of Easter all year long.
Another way to continue these graces and blessings is to make use of FORMED. This past April, the priests of the diocese were invited by Bishop Barres to consider using FORMED in our parishes. For the first year, a grant has been provided to absorb a large part of the cost of the program. Even before this meeting some parishioners had spoken of FORMED and last Fall, Fr. Michael also brought it up as something to consider. I hope you will consider using FORMED. A multitude of Catholic resources is now at your fingertips and mine! Maybe there is an area of theology or ministry you wanted to learn about but never had the time? Perhaps you’re not sure what the Church is teaching on this issue or that one? This would be a good place to turn. Let’s give it a shot as a parish and see if one sign of the fruit of the Spirit might be you and I getting FORMED in the year ahead. (Look on page 2 of this week’s bulletin and for more information in the weeks ahead!)
One sign of the many graces and blessings of the Spirit at work at St. John’s has been the generosity of so many over the past year through the 2017 Summer Appeal, the Catholic Ministries Appeal and most especially through the Fund a Foot Campaign. We would be in pretty dire straights with the church building if it had not been because of your generosity and faithfulness to the Fund a Foot campaign. Because of all the funded feet we have been able to improve our lighting system, add stained glass marking this time and beautify our church building, install a new state of the art sound system, repair our piano, increase lighting outside of the church building, make some needed parking lot repairs, repair the damage to the cupola from recent storms, examine ways to increase the number of security cameras and more (and more to come!). Without your generosity, this would never have been possible. We would likely have to deplete our savings and would find ourselves in a perilous situation with the reconstruction work of the church building.
I can find myself so often filled with fear related to many aspects of this building project — when will this get done or this product arrive or this person respond, etc. Fortunately, because of your generosity with those funded feet, that lack of fear has allowed good fruit to prosper. If I’m honest, like the early disciples, the fear related to certain aspects of ministry can leave me pretty frozen and not just when it comes to finances. Your generosity and gentleness, your kindness and love make a great difference in so many ways. Great signs of the Spirit at work. Thank you!
Please pray for me.
Remembering + Transitioning + Celebrating: A Pentecost Time
Dear Parish Family:
I hope you are as excited as I am about the rededication of the Church building on June 23 at the 5 p.m. mass. The announcement itself is a bit of a “turning point” for us. We’re starting to move in a different direction with a new focus. I have formed a Steering Committee to help lead us through these days. When I first met with them last week, I divided our work into three areas: a) remembering, b) transitioning and c) celebrating.
As I reflect on these three areas, I cannot help but think of the apostles in these days during Ascension and Pentecost. I often imagine them “all in one place together” (Acts 2:1) with Mary, Queen of the Apostles (Acts 1:14) perhaps talking about what had happened from Jesus’ death and resurrection to ascension, wondering how they would change and be those witnessing (Acts 1:8) and celebrating the power of the Spirit on Pentecost.
I hope we can begin to unite our own story to the story of the early Church. That story is not only about the rededication of the church building and not only about our journey as a community. I hope it will be good ground for reflection about our journey of faith.
Remembering. Throughout the next weeks, we’ll be called to remember. I hope you can pray with us this Friday at the Mass of Remembrance and Healing. And in the weeks ahead, I’m sure we’ll remember so many who have been part of our parish’s story not just throughout this year but throughout the history of the parish. I think of the prayer cards of those who passed away who are on the inside of the church building. I hope we, too, can remember. We should be good at it! It’s what we do each time we gather for the Eucharist. Let’s try to take some time in these days and weeks to consider the many ways God’s consolation has touched each of our lives in the past year and far beyond.
Transitioning. The weeks ahead will see some times of change and transition for our parish community. We are in the process of preparing for a Novena of Prayer in the days leading to the rededication (beginning June 14th) helping us to transition well. Like the disciples, we need the help of the Spirit. So look for more information about the church building and activities bringing us together in these days. Let’s take some time, too, to make some space for the Spirit to dwell in our own hearts. If you haven't been praying the Novena to the Holy Spirit, let’s go! Pick up a book at the doors of the Auditorium or outside Seton Chapel.
Celebrating. I look forward to our prayer and coming together on June 23rd and I know you do too! The disciples leave the “one place” touched by the Spirt. What do they do? They celebrate. They celebrated by preaching, teaching, serving, building, loving, challenging. I know we’re going to have a great day on June 23rd! I’m even more excited about what June 24th and beyond will bring for our parish family. I hope you are too!
So in these “in between” days, let’s pray that as a community and as individual believers, we can remember, transition and celebrate well!
Come Holy Spirit! Our Lady Queen of Apostles, pray for us!
Saints Survey Slowdown
You might remember a few months ago — before Easter — we had the first part of our Saint Survey and hundred of parishioners participated. If you were one of them, thank you! I apologize for the delay in this second round of voting. Between Easter and some of the other things happening here this part of the restoration project did not get the attention it deserved. I want to share two updates about the potential new saints in the reredos of the Church. Both relate to an article from the General Instruction of the Roman Missal. This is, if you will, the guidebook as to how to celebrate Mass and to address issues related to the Mass, including church buildings. In Article #318, the General Instruction states: Thus, in sacred buildings images of the Lord, of the Blessed Virgin Mary, and of the Saints, in accordance with most ancient tradition of the Church, should be displayed for veneration by the faithful and should be so arranged so as to lead the faithful toward the mysteries of faith celebrated there. Care should, therefore, be taken that their number not be increased indiscriminately, and moreover that they be arranged in proper order so as not to draw the attention of the faithful to themselves and away from the celebration itself. There should usually be only one image of any given Saint. Generally speaking, in the ornamentation and arrangement of a church, as far as images are concerned, provision should be made for the devotion of the entire community as well as for the beauty and dignity of the images. One thing I should I have included in the original survey was the information underlined in the article above.
There really should only be one image of any given saint in the Church. Some of the saints selected were saints we already have in the Church (i.e. St. John the Evangelist, St. Joseph, St. Therese). So those were not included in the survey below. Second, I originally proposed adding three new statues for the reredos which would include moving the image of the Blessed Mother that was in the reredos to the Rectory Office area. Members of the Legion of Mary presented another idea which I think is awesome! They suggested perhaps incorporating an image of Our Lady Queen of the Apostles into the reredos. This will be a nice connection to the regional school and another image of the Blessed Mother for us to venerate. We’re in the process of trying to find a statue of Our Lady Queen of the Apostles. More to come! So below are the top six saints from our recent Saint Survey. I would ask now that you pick out your top “TWO” saints and return your survey no later than May 12, 2018.